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Borrowing Trouble

Borrowing Trouble

Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s 12:01 pm

When I was in those awkward teenage years, I was always worrying about this or that. I’d anticipate rejection then become defensive about it before it even happened! My mom called it “Borrowing Trouble.”

Sometimes, as a way to unconsciously protect ourselves from potential hurt, people can create trouble where there is none; the idea being that at an unconscious level, if we can anticipate pain, then we can better control it.

Learning to use mindfulness as a way to see reality from a non-judgemental perspective is one of the foundations of interrupting the cycle of borrowing trouble. Once you see it for what it is, you are better able to see other options for how to approach living life.