Individual counseling at Gate Healing, PLLC offers people a safe, comfortable place to talk about their concerns and to look for effective solutions that fit the lifestyle and personality of each client. Of course, we also want people to turn towards each other for comfort and support, so we offer counseling services aimed at helping you learn how to express your wants and needs in a way that loved ones can better understand.
Common issues addressed in therapy
Marriage and Couples Counseling
Whether you are considering taking your relationship to the next level, or are experiencing conflict, Gottman Method Couples Therapy has answers you are looking for. While I will provide both of you with a thorough assessment and helpful handouts to take home with you, what sets my couples sessions apart from many others is that I will redirect you to talk directly to each other rather than having me ‘translate’ for you. Using educational tools based on thousands of couples participating in research studies, I’ll coach you through how to communicate so that you both feel heard and understood.
Will anybody (job, spouse, friends, etc.) find out we are talking?
No. Our sessions are protected by federal laws regarding privacy. And I would never expect you to trust me if you thought I would tell anybody about our sessions. Federal confidentiality laws mean that I cannot confirm or deny that I know who you are unless you discuss actual or suspected:
- Child Abuse
- Elder Abuse
- Abuse of the disabled
- Somebody’s life is in immediate life-threatening danger
In these cases, I am required by law to report to the appropriate authorities to ensure the safety of people that are potentially in danger.
How long are sessions?
Sessions are 45-minutes, but I will not just cut you off at exactly forty-five minutes. I put fifteen minutes between sessions to give me a chance to finish jotting down notes about your session and to prepare for my next session.
If you feel that a 45-minute session isn’t enough time, we can schedule double sessions that last 90-minutes.
What if I run into my counselor in public?
Out of respect for your privacy, I will follow your lead. This means that even if we see each other, I will not just come over and say, “Hello.” If you say hello to me, I’ll gladly say, “Hi!” but if you are with anybody, I will not explain who I am. So, if we see each other in public, you are welcome to say hello, but I will not acknowledge you unless you initiate contact.
How do I know you won’t try to keep me coming in for longer than I really need to?
I do not see clients as revenue streams. My job is to help you get to a place where you don’t need me as soon as possible. Many people find that they get their needs met within 6-10 sessions. Of course, everybody is different and more serious situations may take longer. Rest assured, I will let you know when it seems like we should scale back sessions, AND I expect that you will let me know how you are feeling as well.
Sometimes, people decide that while they no longer need more intensive therapy, they would like to continue weekly, bi-weekly or monthly sessions so they have a place to process daily life. This is just fine as long as we are clear that you do not “need” me at the therapeutic level where we started. You are also welcome to get in touch on an ‘as-needed’ basis.
Can I ask you personal questions?
Our sessions are designed to be about you, not me, but it is not uncommon for people to want to know a little more about their therapist. Asking me questions is absolutely fine! It can be helpful to know my background, my experience, and training. You may even want a little information about me as a person. Some questions I will not be able to answer because this would flip the focus of our sessions or would reveal information that is just too personal, but I am happy to talk about this with you.
Your questions are always ok! Rest assured, I’ll be honest about what I can and cannot answer.
Do I have to watch my language?
Not really. I am not easily offended, however, I expect that our time will not be littered with unnecessary, abusive or distracting language just for the heck of it. Cursing that is a part of expressing intensity and emotion is just fine. If I notice that it is keeping you stuck, or is ramping you up, I’ll process this with you.
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Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s has worked in the helping profession since he started college in 1990. After completing his Bachelor’s degree at the University of Texas, Austin in 1994, he attended the highly-regarded University of Minnesota to earn his Master’s degree in 1997. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is recognized as a Board Approved Supervisor by the State of Texas Board of Examiners of Professional Counselors. Jonathan is a Gottman-trained Couples Counselor, and in 1998 received training by the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation in Advanced Critical Incident Stress Management & Debriefing. To learn more about Jonathan’s practice, click here: Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s.