Relationships: You Cannot Bake the Cake then Add the Sugar

Establishing a healthy and fulfilling relationship takes time, effort, and patience. When you’re in a relationship, whether it’s dating or marriage, it’s important to understand that major corrections cannot be made overnight. Trying to plug in these corrections without working through the hurt feelings, anger, and resentment can do more harm than good.

Think of it like baking a cake. If you leave out major ingredients while baking a cake and try to add them later, it won’t turn out well. Similarly, when trust is broken, communication is toxic, and respect and affection are withheld, you cannot simply expect to behave better and expect immediate forgiveness and normalcy. It takes time and effort to rebuild these dynamics and re-establish trust. Rushing into things will only make things worse and it may seem like you don’t understand the gravity of the hurt your partner is experiencing. It’s important to take the time to work through any issues and genuinely show that you’re committed to making things right.

Remember, the road to recovery is not always easy, but it is possible. By taking the necessary steps to rebuild your relationship, you can create a stronger, healthier, and more fulfilling partnership with your loved one.