Autism Spectrum and Friendships

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Navigating Autism Spectrum and Friendship

A Guide for Teens and Young Adults with ASD to Make Friends

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Finding Friendship

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) is the new term for what used to be called Asperger’s Disorder. It can be thought of as being on a spectrum ranging from mild to severe. Asperger’s (now ASD) would be on the lower end. Many people with ASD are employed, successful in academics, live fully independent lives, and go on to get married and have families. They tend to struggle with repetitive movements, social skills, and interpreting social cues. However, managing ASD is possible with the right help!

Developing and maintaining friendships can be a rewarding and fulfilling aspect of life for teens and young adults with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). While building social connections might present unique challenges, there are effective strategies that can help individuals with ASD foster meaningful relationships. In this blog post, we’ll provide practical advice to help teens and young adults navigate the social landscape and build lasting friendships.

  1. Understand Your Strengths: Recognize and embrace your unique strengths and qualities. Everyone has something valuable to offer in a friendship, and acknowledging your positive traits can boost your self-confidence.
  2. Identify Shared Interests: Seek out activities, hobbies, or groups that align with your interests. Joining clubs or engaging in activities related to your passions can help you connect with others who share your hobbies.
  3. Practice Social Skills: Engage in role-playing or social skills training to improve your ability to initiate conversations, maintain eye contact, and engage in small talk. Practicing these skills can make social interactions feel more comfortable.
  4. Use Technology to Connect: Online platforms and social media can be a great way to initiate conversations and build connections in a less overwhelming environment. Join online communities or groups that focus on your interests.
  5. Set Realistic Expectations: Understand that friendships take time to develop. Not every interaction will lead to a deep connection, and that’s okay. Focus on building a variety of relationships.
  6. Learn About Nonverbal Cues: Study nonverbal cues, body language, and facial expressions to better understand the emotions and intentions of others. This knowledge can help you navigate social situations effectively.
  7. Practice Active Listening: Pay attention to what others are saying and show genuine interest in their thoughts and feelings. Active listening helps create a sense of connection and fosters meaningful conversations.
  8. Express Your Boundaries: Be open about your needs and boundaries in friendships. Clear communication helps avoid misunderstandings and creates a foundation of mutual respect.
  9. Engage in Group Activities: Participate in group activities, workshops, or classes that interest you. These settings provide opportunities for gradual social interaction within a structured environment.
  10. Reach Out Gradually: Approach potential friends with a gradual progression of interactions. Start with casual conversations and gradually increase the depth of your interactions as you feel more comfortable.
  11. Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge and celebrate every positive step you take in building friendships, no matter how small. Each interaction is an opportunity for growth.


Making friends as a teen or young adult with ASD is a journey that requires patience, effort, and self-compassion. By embracing your strengths, seeking shared interests, practicing social skills, and using technology to connect, you can navigate social interactions with greater ease. Remember that building friendships is about mutual understanding, respect, and shared experiences. With determination, practice, and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone, you can cultivate meaningful connections that enrich your life and contribute to your overall well-being.

ASD Resources

American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry – The AACAP provides a wealth of information on Autism and ASD

Autism Speaks – A non-profit organization dedicated to providing information and support around Autism and ASD

CDC – The CDC provides up-to-date information on a wide variety of conditions, including Autism and ASD

*Updated August 31, 2023

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Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s has worked in the helping profession since he started college in 1990. After completing his Bachelor’s degree at the University of Texas, Austin in 1994, he attended the highly-regarded University of Minnesota to earn his Master’s degree in 1997. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is recognized as a Board Approved Supervisor by the State of Texas Board of Examiners of Professional Counselors. Jonathan has completed Level 2 of the Gottman Method of Couples Counseling, and in 1998 received training from the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation in Advanced Critical Incident Stress Management & Debriefing. To learn more about Jonathan’s practice, click here: Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s.

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