At Gate Healing, we provide mindfulness-based cognitive-behavioral counseling services that help you recognize and self-correct problematic thoughts and behaviors.Cognitive-Behavioral theory teaches that your thoughts (cognitions) lead to behaviors that have results that shape the mind.
Counseling Services: Helping you self-recognize and correct bad habits
Strengths and Mindfulness-based Cognitive Behavioral Counseling
If you’re like most folks, you want to know that you can solve most of your own problems. So, our work provides you with a solid foundation to find what works best for you. My job is to help you see how you can solve problems using mindfulness.
Mindfulness is an awareness that is free of various forms of brain-clutter like judgment, competitiveness, and resentment. Finding this new perspective, you are able to see what your strengths are, and know how to use them. And if you get stuck, I’ll be there to help you adapt your skills and try again. Remember, I won’t send you on a wild-goose chase when you are truly stuck; I’ll be more helpful and informative than that.
Mindfulness-based counseling involves learning how to be aware, or mindful, of your thoughts and feelings without negativity or drama. This allows you to see yourself and your situation from an objective perspective where you can make more effective decisions. Mindfulness brings a unique clarity to cognitive-behavioral counseling techniques.
Strength-based counseling focuses on your natural strengths. We will look at what you have already done that seems to have worked well, then build on that. When you need to improve skills that haven’t worked, we will create an action plan for you to follow. Most people possess a variety of strengths that they aren’t aware of because they’re sitting in a blind spot. I will help you find them, use them, and adapt them to apply to other situations.
Counseling & Therapy FAQ's
How long will it take for me to feel better?
Some people see results after just a session or two. On average, 6-8 sessions get many people on track for common issues. Keep in mind that everybody is different though; some people want to continue counseling once a month, or once a week for preventative maintenance. Other people will want to schedule counseling sessions on an as-needed basis when things come up. This is just fine as well. We will talk about what you are looking for and help you find what is best for your situation.
What are the different kinds of mental health professionals?
- Psychiatrist: A psychiatrist is a medical doctor (MD) that specializes in brain chemistry and how it impacts our thoughts and feelings. They can prescribe medications that may help you feel better.
- Psychologist: A psychologist has a doctorate degree (Ph.D., Ed.D, DSW, or Psy.D), but it’s not a medical degree, so they cannot prescribe medications. In Texas, to call yourself a Psychologist, you must have a doctorate degree and be licensed by the state as a Psychologist (LP).
- Psychotherapist: A psychotherapist generally refers to any licensed, master’s or doctorate level mental health practitioner that is licensed by the state:
- LPC – Licensed Professional Counselor
- LCSW – Licensed Clinical Social Worker
- LMFT – Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
- LP- Licensed Psychologist
What is the difference between counseling, therapy, psychoanalysis, and life-coaching?
- Counseling tends to refer to a process of working through current situations that are presenting emotional difficulty and a sense of unbalanced living.
- Therapy (or psychotherapy) typically refers to a deeper level of emotional work involving more detail of your personal and family history, examining the influences those experiences have on your current life, and specific work to restructure the old templates that continue to pull you into discomfort and imbalance.
- Psychoanalysis is a very intense process of examining your life from earliest memories through the present and analyzing the conscious and unconscious elements of the mind. Usually provided by doctoral level providers with a great deal of experience and highly-specialized training. Psychoanalysis requires 2-4 sessions per week, for 5-10 years, or more. Psychoanalysis is quite expensive, especially considering multiple sessions per week over a number of years.
- Life-coaching looks at how to reach specific goals in your life using your strengths to move you towards personal, professional, emotional and spiritual contentment. A life coach may not have a graduate degree or any licensure.
While I specialize in couples counseling, trauma, depression, and anxiety I also provide specialized treatment for a variety of issues that people face in daily life. Individual counseling is designed to help you make sense of your life in terms of solutions and adaptations. Examining thoughts and behaviors will help you see patterns that may be leading to your difficult situation; once we identify those patterns, we will build a plan for changing them. This mindfulness-based cognitive-behavioral approach has been shown to be highly effective for:
Stress is a biochemical state of heightened alert and is related to anxiety in that way. Chemicals like cortisol, epinephrine, and testosterone create the tense mental and physiological state that comes with stress. Stress is trying to help keep you safe and should be managed and leveraged in a healthy manner, not eradicated.
Depression and Anxiety Management
Depression and anxiety tend to co-occur. Some find that they are experiencing a primary depression and a secondary anxiety, while others experience anxiety with a secondary depression. The “3rd Musketeer” is irritability. Where you see depression or anxiety, you’ll usually see some form of irritability. Most often, medication is not necessary to manage depression and anxiety; counseling, exercise and healthy nutrition show far more positive results in managing depression and anxiety.
Let’s face it, getting that dream job and moving to that amazing community that you’ve always wanted to live in is a blessing! But you’ll need to do some planning in order to have a smooth transition that minimizes stress and confusion as the unexpected curve-balls inevitably arise. Perhaps you are just considering a change, maybe whether to have a baby or not, to buy a new home, or even to end a relationship. Having a place to process your thoughts and feelings about these things can help you prevent undue stress.
Individual Counseling: What to expect
- I interpret all LPC Board laws and Ethical Codes to provide the maximum safety of your private information.
- Honesty without judgment. You are coming in for insight and answers, and while my goal is to help you find your own way, I will certainly provide you with honest feedback in a tone that is not judgmental or condescending.
- Professionalism balanced with a casual, approachable style.
- Referrals. Should you need a referral for any reason, I am always happy to help you find what you are looking for.
Once you get started
In your initial session, we will review your reasons for seeking help, your goals, and in some cases complete an assessment tool that will help us to plan your therapy or counseling experience.
Individual Counseling FAQ's
What if I want to bring my spouse or partner?
As a Gottman Method couples counselor, I can do both individual and couples counseling with a couple. Some therapists prefer to only do one or the other (individual or couples counseling), and this is fine. It is simply a matter of training and preference. I do not require couples to see me as an individual therapist though.
Can I have more than one counselor at a time?
Because there are different ways to approach a variety of life issues it’s usually a good idea to stick with one counselor so things don’t get confusing, but there are times when concurrent therapy can be helpful. In that case, both counselors will usually want to check in with each other to coordinate your care.
Does getting counseling or therapy mean I’m mentally ill?
Not at all! Most people that seek counseling and therapy don’t have any mental health issues at all. They are simply looking for support and guidance with challenging situations. Even when there is a diagnosable depression or anxiety etc., those are usually very manageable with counseling and lifestyle changes. Please be aware that I do not provide diagnostic evaluations, so assigning labels is not something you’ll need to be concerned with.
Perhaps you’ve noticed a pattern of disagreements escalating into full-blown fights. Or maybe you’ve seen a disturbing trend of not attending to each other’s attempts to talk, or even be romatic. When these types of dynamics happen occasionally, there is usually no need for concern unless other unhealthy patterns are present. But when you realize a pattern has emerged, it is time to get help.
Couples Counseling – Improving Communication, Closeness and Conflict Management
The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy is an empirically validated methodology developed by Drs John & Julie Gottman at the University of Washington over the course of 40 years of studying and treating over 3,000 couples. They discovered that certain practices (sometimes surprising ones!) were highly correlated with the long-term success of happy couples. They were also able to accurately predict which couples would not last based on a few simple behavior patterns. With the simple exercises and techniques learned in the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy, thousands of couples have dramatically changed their relationships from nearly certain failure to the closeness and excitement that they had dreamed about.
The Gottman Method
With concepts like the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, which signify major dysfunction in a relationship, and Bids/Turns, which address communication dynamics, their straightforward approach is intuitive and extremely effective. The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy is not just intuitive though, the empirical research supports the methodology and the success rates are astounding. Through the use of assessments, exercises, and homework, the Gottman Method helps couples learn how to communicate better, manage conflict more effectively, and build intimacy that may have been missing for many years.
Couples counseling helps you and your partner:
- Examine your assumptions
- Improve communication
- Learn how to recognize and respond to warning signs that you need to slow down and understand each other better
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse - The communication killers
While communication problems are not the only cause of relationship distress, it is often one of the first unhealthy dynamics to be recognized by couples. It represents a large part of how we connect with each other. A therapist trained in the Gottman Method will help you identify communication problems and will teach you the antidotes for the toxicity created by them. The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse are communication patterns that represent major dysfunction in communication and that if left untreated can result in the demise of a relationship:
- Criticism – This feels like character assassination. A highly charged criticism of the very character of a person that goes well beyond a simple behavioral complaint. These can be passive-aggressive, or overtly aggressive.
- Defensiveness – An angry denial or a charged deflection of responsibility; even excuse making. The defensive person shifts the focus back onto themselves instead of hearing their partner fully. Criticism and Contempt (the next Horseman) often lead to defensiveness.
- Contempt – Often feels like an expression of disgust. You’ll also see things like mocking, toxic sarcasm and belittling. There are facial features that also give this one away (Imagine a teenager rolling their eyes and pulling their upper lip up as if they smelled something horrible).
- Stonewalling – Stonewalling is frequently associated with flooding, a physiological state where a person is so upset that they literally shut down emotionally and communicatively. They will just withdraw from the conversation, not make eye contact, and may specifically look down and to the left. When we check their vital signs, we see increased pulse rate, among other things.
I mentioned above that there are simple patterns that when present can reliably predict the downfall of a relationship. The Four Horsemen are those patterns. I’d like to help you before they become a pattern, but if you see that they are already set in place, please get in touch so we can get started. Learning how to recognize the horsemen and remedy their toxic effects on your relationship helps you learn to listen better, feel understood more often, and maintain a calm and respectful demeanor when dealing with charged topics and conflict.
The antidotes to the 4 Horsemen are an important part of our work. I want you to leave couples therapy with a skill set, a complete toolbox that has the skills you need to work through conflict without resorting to the horsemen . . . and when they do show up from time to time, I want you to have skills to neutralize them. We will discuss how to do this in detail and I will give you materials that will help you remember these skills and integrate them into your daily routines (this helps prevent the horsemen).
So what makes a healthy, happy marriage?
There are a LOT of misconceptions out there about what destroys a marriage, and about what makes them work. For example, many people think that affairs almost always destroy a marriage. In fact, the vast majority of marriages are able to survive betrayals like this if the core issue is addressed in therapy. On the other hand, people tend to think that effective marriages are able to solve most of their problems. Dr. Gottman himself was surprised to find that in happy relationships, the reality is that 69% of conflict is managed, not solved! This gives most folks a great deal of relief as it means that conflict is just fine so long as there is a way to manage it that leads to discussion and compromise vs gridlock.
Nine practices that lead to healthy relationships (Elements of the Sound Relationship House):
- Knowing one another – Know the small details about each other
- Sharing fondness and admiration of one another – Build each other up, share what you like and love
- Being responsive to attempts to connect – Make efforts to establish and maintain connections every day
- Giving the benefit of the doubt – When dealing with conflict, remember you both want to restore harmony. Practice effective “repair efforts” when conflict does occur
- Managing conflict effectively – Remember, dialogue instead of gridlock. It is the discussion itself that keeps you connected through the conflict
- Working to help one another’s life dreams come true – Give your hopes and dreams a voice! Hear your partner’s dreams and find ways to help them come true
- Creating shared meaning – Approach life from a “We” or “Us” perspective instead of only as 2 individuals sharing a house
- Trust – Trust that you have each other’s backs when the chips are down
- Commitment – Show your commitment by showing compassion, gratitude, kindness, and optimism. Be trustworthy. Follow through on your promises
According to Gottman, each of these elements build a Sound Relationship house that can withstand the storms of a normal relationship.
What is anxiety counseling?
Anxiety counseling helps you manage anxiety by learning to:
- Recognize thoughts and behaviors that create anxiety
- Identify new ways of thinking that reduce anxiety
- Practice self-soothing behaviors that calm the nervous system
Anxiety management is based on a strong relationship between a person’s strengths and their ability to use them to deal with all facets of anxiety. These different parts of anxiety can be biochemical, learned, situational, etc.
Anxiety is not designed to be unhealthy in limited doses; it is supposed to be a temporary alert system that helps you pay close attention to potential danger. An anxiety attack is your body’s fight or flight response acting as if your life is in danger. This is what causes symptoms like a fast, pounding heart, rapid breathing, sweating, plus a sense of impending doom.
My overall approach puts more focus on the solution to anxiety than on the anxiety itself. I do, however, believe that it is important for me to understand how you experience anxiety, and where it is coming from, so I do not gloss over it. I will likely point out when you are exclusively focusing on nervous thoughts and anxious behaviors, thereby not putting as much focus on how to relieve it, so that we can get back to the business of anxiety relief.
You are able to solve issues like anxiety on your own. Being Client-directed means that I do not see it as my place to tell you what to do, when to do it, and why you should do it my way. This means that if I redirect you away from focusing exclusively on anxiety, but you feel like you really need to vent more, I expect that you will speak up! Rest assured, I will be clear about if it seems to be helping or not, but I won’t demand that you do it my way.
I’ve heard that anxiety is trying to help me. How is that?
We need an alert system that tells us when there is a danger close by. Anxiety is that system; it tells us when there is a threat, then triggers the sympathetic nervous system’s fight, flight or flee response by sending oxygen and nutrients to the muscles. The protective response also involves making our senses more finely tuned so we can assess the situation more accurately. What people experience as problematic is when this alert system comes online when there isn’t an actual threat to safety.
Are there different types of anxiety?
Yes, though they may feel quite similar. Social anxiety, performance anxiety, romantic anxiety, test anxiety as well as assorted phobias are a few examples. There can be a genetic component to anxiety and worry, and some people just live in a higher alert state than others. Mindfulness-based cognitive-behavioral therapy is extremely effective in managing most types of anxiety. Meditation, exercise, and massage are also very helpful.
Is there a pill I can take to help?
Talking to your doctor to see if you might benefit from medications is an option, however, counseling and therapy are more effective than medication alone. Some anti-anxiety medications are extremely addictive and can be difficult to stop taking.
Depression is like living under a dark cloud that just won’t go away. Eventually, even the motivation to try to feel better seems to evaporate; people even say that it’s tough to follow through on behaviors that they know would help. Because of the progression of depression, it is important to get started in counseling sooner than later so that the depression doesn’t get too much momentum. But even if things have felt bleak for quite some time, taking action now will help you reclaim your life.
Sometimes, doing what could help can feel difficult because of the cognitive symptoms of depression like lack of motivation and presence of pessimism. But depression is not just painful thoughts and emotions, it is frequently accompanied by physical discomfort and lethargy. Insomnia, hypersomnia, appetite changes, irritability, and anxiety are other troublesome symptoms that may co-occur with depression.
As painful as depression is, the thoughts that go along with it can be even more painful. The mind seems to ruminate on self-loathing, guilt, regret, anger, and even suicide. Using mindfulness to manage depression is not about digging into the painful thoughts, but rather to simply see them for what they are, then move to different, healthier thoughts. Most people find that the more they try to avoid certain thoughts, the louder they seem to get. We can use this paradox to your advantage by becoming aware of depressive thoughts as soon as they happen, then intervening as soon as possible by using the tools we will develop together.
To treat your depression, I’ll work with you to:
- Cultivate a mindfulness practice that helps you beat depression
- Overcome the lethargy and lack of motivation that often comes with depression
- Identify specific skills that change the biochemistry of depression
Common tools for fighting depression
Before jumping to medications, you can look a other well-researched and consistently proven methods for combating depression (you’re never wrong to talk to your doctor/psychiatrist about medication though). Consistency and follow through are important with these tools. We will customize these tools, and others, to your unique personality and situation:
- Eating healthy
- Proper hydration
Do I have bipolar depression if my mood fluctuates?
Probably not. Normal mood fluctuations are a common experience for all of us. Bipolar disorder is more extreme ups (manic phases) and downs (depressive phases) that causes significant impairment in daily life. Milder versions, like Bipolar II have what are called ‘hypomanic’ phases, where the manic phase aren’t as drastic, but are still more intense than normal mood shifts. If you aren’t sure, get in touch so we can talk about it.
Does depression cause people to use drugs and alcohol?
The pain that depression causes is a common reason that people self-medicate with drugs and alcohol, but it doesn’t directly ’cause’ the using behaviors. People self-medicate when they feel like they cannot tolerate the pain they are experiencing and are desperate for even a temporary break from it. The trouble is, drugs and alcohol can be addictive, and the effects on the brain frequently make the depression even worse, which causes more cravings for the chemicals. A better approach is counseling, exercise, healthy diet, meditation, and sometimes proper medication that is prescribed by a psychiatrist. These drugs are specifically tailored to help depression without causing it to get worse in between doses.
What causes depression?
The causes of depression are varied. Sometimes there is a genetic link to an imbalance in neurotransmitters like dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine, other times it can be related to major life events like trauma, grief, injury and major stress. Regardless of the root cause of depression, there is help.
Is depression curable?
Depression is manageable. It is not a disease that needs to be ‘cured’ like cancer or an infection. As I mentioned above, exercise, healthy nutrition, hydration, meditation, and medication are all extremely helpful in managing depression. Even massage therapy has great benefits for people living with depression. The more you engage in these activities, and the more consistently you do them, the better the results. Counseling and other non-medical methods are 2-3 times more effective than medication alone.
How long does depression last?
Depression can be a temporary symptom (i.e. not a diagnosis) of something like grief or stress, or a diagnosable condition like Major Depression or Bipolar Disorder. Diagnosable depression can be episodic (brief episodes of depression) or chronic.
Stress management in Austin is essential. So many things going on that even deciding what to do to unwind can create stress! But there is a way to approach stress that helps us leverage the motivation it is trying to create. Stress, like anxiety, is a state of heightened awareness. It is an alert signal that tells us that we need to do something to restore balance.
Responding to stress vs Reacting to stress
You’re buried under paperwork, are behind on bills, your car won’t start, and you have a big meeting with your boss and a VP of the company in 10 minutes.
Stress is a fact of life. We are not talking about getting rid of any emotions; instead, we are talking about how to effectively respond to them. By learning to respond to our uncomfortable emotions, like stress, we are able to turn them into useful tools that help us find what we are looking for: balance (homeostasis), peacefulness, calmness, joy, etc.
A ‘Reaction’ is when you act without thinking; for example, somebody says something that you don’t like, and you say something hurtful without thinking. A ‘Response’ is when you take time to consider what you are about to say or do; using the same example, a response would mean that you first consider the impact/consequence of saying something hurtful, then decide to try another direction (ideally, one that helps the situation rather than making it worse). Applied to stress management, we can consider the situation at the start of this section: Late to work, the car won’t start, behind on bills, etc. Just one of “those” days. Clearly, it is stressful right from the get-go. In this case, stress is state of discomfort that, in spite of its obnoxiousness, is trying to help us. If you just react impulsively, you may kick the flat tire (did I mention that there’s a flat tire, too?), hurt your foot, resulting in a new frustration of a limp and pain. If however, you take the time to consider what needs to happen, you will likely respond by taking a breath, then calling your boss to let them know that you’ll be a little late…or perhaps you think to call a colleague to cover for you so that you can tell your boss that you’ve got things covered already. Now, this does not erase the frustration with the situation, but you can see how it is better than adding a broken toe to the equation.
Letting stress help you, not paralyze you
Since stress is inevitable, we do well when we use it to our advantage as we learn to navigate life’s ups and downs. Like other uncomfortable/undesirable states of mind, we can allow stress to be a ‘warning light’ that tells us when it’s time to take a break, slow down, take a vacation, etc. Just be sure that you know what tends to help you; if you are not sure, then counseling may be helpful for you since sometimes a neutral person can see options that you may have missed.
Stress management ideas:
- Take a shower or bath
- Listen to music
- Get a massage
- Play music
- Play a game
- Talk to a friend or family member
- Take a walk in nature (or just sit in nature)
- Drink a soothing drink (Chamomile)
- Simply wash your face
- Breathe in and out with a smooth rhythm (meditation)
- Tend your garden
Stress management FAQ's
I heard that there is ‘good stress’ and ‘bad stress.’ What is the difference?
It’s true, sort of. The brain only knows general stress, we deem it as ‘good or bad’ depending on what it relates to. Getting a flat tire would be ‘bad’ stress. If, however, you get a promotion, buy a house, or even win the lottery, your body will release the same biochemical cocktail of cortisol, adrenaline, and testosterone, but because those are generally good things, we would call them ‘good’ stress. Any kind of big change puts us in a higher alert state so that we can pay attention to the new circumstances whether its to adjust to heartbreak or new found fortune. Remember, the chemistry is the same, but our interpretation of how it feels is based on context.
If stress is supposed to help us, why do we want to get rid of it?
We don’t! Stress is a survival mechanism designed to protect us, so we want to manage it, not get rid of it. Counseling helps you recognize, interpret and manage stress so that it helps you make healthy decisions. So, what we call ‘getting rid of stress’ is actually just responding to it effectively so it can dissipate.
Why do somethings stress me out, but not other people?
Genetics, how we were taught as kids, and the environment we were raised in all come together to make us who we are. We are all wired differently, raised differently, and in different circumstances, so what stresses us out is a matter of individual differences in who we are.
Post-Traumatic Stress (PTS) and Who it Impacts
Post Traumatic Stress is very real and can impact soldiers and civilians alike. Things like combat, terrorism, and natural disaster are not the only ways to experience it. Major life changes like job loss, divorce, and loss of loved ones often result in PTS symptoms (sometimes mistakenly referred to as PTSD . . . the ‘D’ stands for Disorder; PTS is not a disorder in and of itself; if not resolved, however, it can meet the diagnostic criteria for PTSD). If you are uncertain, please get in touch to see if crisis counseling would be helpful for you.
Symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress
While we all experience trauma in unique ways, there are several trends that are consistent across traumatic experiences. Beginning with shock and denial, symptoms of traumatic stress also include cognitive, behavioral, physical and emotional symptoms. Appetite and sleep fluctuation, irritability, depression, fear and recurring images (flashbacks) are common. More severe symptoms include chronic depression, phobic reactions to traumatic triggers, job loss, physical decline and major personality changes.
Trauma and Crisis Counseling
I received Advanced Certification by the International Critical Incident Foundation in 1998 and have responded to over 400 critical incidents around the United States. I have also trained new trauma specialists who have also provided international support to hundreds of trauma survivors.
What to expect from Post Traumatic Stress
When tragedy strikes, it is rarely expected or planned for. Usually, it comes in the form of unexpected trauma ranging from natural disasters to the unfathomable tragedies of terrorism.
We survive tragedy, but we must understand that the distress that follows tells us we need help. If not addressed, these symptoms (often referred to as Critical Incident Stress or Post Traumatic Stress) may linger for months or even years, needlessly complicating our lives, and worrying our loved ones who may feel helpless when trying to ease our pain.
What to do
While some people may be able to effectively manage their traumatic stress without counseling or traumatic stress management/debriefing, it is always best to talk to a professional if you have any hesitation at all–it is worth the time and expense to put your mind at ease; remember, some of the manifestations of traumatic stress can be subtle as they stay inside and fester only to show up later as more distressing symptoms.
In order to deal with traumatic stress effectively, it is suggested that you contact a credentialed Critical Incident Stress Management professional within the first 24-72 hours. Your healing may involve both group debriefings and individual counseling, as well as ongoing aftercare for a few weeks, or as long as you feel is necessary.
If you know somebody that has been through a crisis or trauma
First, please understand that people who have been through a trauma do not have a “Disorder.” The Post Traumatic Stress (PTS) simply becomes a part of their survival. They can, and will, work through it. Helping them heal from this “invisible wound” involves:
- Following their lead. Be there if they ask for help.
- Do NOT ask for details; this can traumatize you (called Secondary Trauma, or Vicarious Trauma) and re-traumatize them by bringing the pain back up for them.
- Be reassuring, help them remember what they can do: exercise, be social (careful about alcohol though), play music, read a book, anything that helps them unwind. Even offer to do this with them.
- If they would like to talk about how they feel, or about the situation, be sure that you are clear about your limits. They will be appreciative that they know you will be honest with them. If you do feel upset by anything, be sure you reach out for help as well.
- Offer to bring them something they need: a meal, a book, yourself, etc. However, do not treat them as if they are incapable of caring for themselves.
- Just love them by being a good friend and/or family member.
Helpful tips when Post Traumatic Stress impacts you
Here are some suggestions for things to try after surviving a tragedy:
- Try to remember, it is OK to feel rotten about a rotten situation.
- As you feel ready, begin to bring normalcy back to your life by doing things that you used to do before the trauma.
- Exercise and follow a healthy diet (talk to your doctor!).
- Talk to your friends and family.
- Talk with a professional counselor (preferably Critical Incident trained).
- Practice meditation, relaxation, gentle, relaxed breathing.
- Get plenty of rest.
- Attempt to find something that you can learn from the trauma (i.e., how to prepare for a tornado, how to perform 1st aid and CPR, learn self-defense).
*Use the above as suggestions for loved ones that are struggling as well.
Post Traumatic Stress FAQ's
Do you have to be a combat veteran to experience PTS or PTSD?
No. And remember, dealing with PTS does not automatically mean that you have a disorder. Relationship loss, major life changes, or even just hearing about a traumatic situation often triggers Post Traumatic Stress. The key lesson is that traumatic stress can be dealt with and should not be ignored.
Is PTS or PTSD permanent?
Not usually. Being the more extreme of the two, PTSD can become a lifelong struggle for some, usually when the nature of the trauma is very extreme or long-lasting (some combat veterans, somebody that was imprisoned and tortured, etc.). With proper help though, PTS and PTSD can usually be managed with counseling and some specific techniques like EMDR, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and Critical Incident Stress Debriefing/Management; sometimes people will get additional recovery from medication to moderate related depression and anxiety.
Should I try and get somebody dealing with PTS/PTSD to talk about what happened to them?
If they want to talk about it, they will, but generally speaking, it is not a good idea to get them to re-live the experience by describing it because it can re-traumatize them, and you may be traumatized by just hearing about what they went through. If somebody does want to tell you about their struggle, please be honest with them about your limits . . . it is ok to tell them that you’re concerned about them re-living it. You may consider directing them to a trauma specialist or counselor. Most of the time, this will not be an issue as folks typically do not want to get into details; they may, however, want to talk about how they are feeling and how they are trying to move forward. This is a great place to support them.