Self-Esteem
Personal developmentSelf-esteem is the foundation of a positive and happy life. When we lack self-confidence, we can feel unworthy, anxious, or even depressed. But with practice, self-esteem can grow, leading to a healthier, more fulfilling life.
Self-Love is…
Healthy Political Discussions: Navigating the Trump vs Harris Election
Personal developmentDuring election season, social media threads often engage in political confirmation bias. Tempers flare, insults are hurled, and anticipatory defensiveness likely contributes to people taking things personally.
Can't We All Just Get Along?
Yes,…
7 Signs That You’re a People Pleaser
Personal developmentBeing kind and helpful is a great quality, but sometimes it can go too far. If you often find yourself putting others' needs before your own to the point of stress, burnout, or even compassion fatigue, you might be a people pleaser. Here are…
Borrowing Responsibility: When Helping Hurts
Personal development, Stress ManagementTaking on responsibilities can be a great thing. It shows you're dependable, caring, and willing to help others. But what happens when you "borrow" too much responsibility that isn't yours to deal with? This can lead to unhealthy situations…
Autism Spectrum and Making Friends
Personal developmentDeveloping and maintaining friendships can be a rewarding and fulfilling aspect of life for teens and young adults with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). While building social connections might present unique challenges, there are effective…
Autism Spectrum and Dating
Couples and Marriage Counseling, Personal developmentGoing on a date can be an exciting yet nerve-wracking experience, especially for teens and young adults with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). The key to a successful date lies in being authentic, respectful, and considerate of your own…
How Successful People Leverage Failure and Rejection
Personal development“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
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Finances, Budgeting and Mental Health
Personal developmentFinances are not the number one reason for suffering; it's an attachment to financial or material gain that is the root of suffering. However, money is often cited as the number one reason for relationship stress. Even for single individuals,…
Preparing for College: A 6-Step-Guide
Personal developmentThe transition from high school to college marks a significant milestone in the lives of young adults. It's a time filled with anticipation, excitement, and even a touch of uncertainty. As high school seniors prepare to embark on this…
A Guide to Developing Strong Social Skills
Personal developmentNavigating the complex world of social interactions as a teenager can be both exciting and challenging. Developing strong social skills is crucial for building meaningful relationships, fostering self-confidence, and preparing for success…
Effective Study Strategies for Teen Success
Personal developmentNavigating the world of academics as a teenager can be both challenging and rewarding. Developing effective study habits is crucial for achieving academic success while maintaining a healthy balance with other aspects of your life. In…
Dealing with Toxic People
Personal developmentRecently, there has been a lot of attention on how to recognize and minimize contact with toxic people. While it is important to take appropriate steps to protect yourself from such people, it is also helpful to know how to deal with or even…
Understanding Toxic People
Personal developmentDealing with toxic people can be a difficult task, but it's important to remember that with the right knowledge and practice, you can protect yourself and avoid being pulled into their negative vortex. This article will provide you with some…
Creating the Mindful Mind
Mindfulness, Personal developmentThe word "mindfulness" is becoming more familiar to the general public, and that's a good thing. In a world full of violence and heartache, a mindful mind can help relieve suffering. Mindfulness is the practice of noticing what "is" without…
Mindfulness Practice
Mindfulness, Personal developmentWhen you look at the child in this picture, notice the 10,000-mile stare. This gaze is called the "10,000-mile stare," and it happens when someone is totally absorbed in the moment. His eyes are open, but he is completely present with the smell…
Metacognition: Awareness of Awareness
Mindfulness, Personal developmentMetacognition is a valuable outcome of mindfulness practice. Mindfulness is the practice of noticing what is in your awareness without judging it as good or bad. For example, consider the mild pain associated with a splinter in your finger.…
Extracting Rejection
Personal developmentExtracted Rejection is a phenomenon where one perceives rejection after an event has taken place, even though the facts suggest otherwise. It is different from Anticipatory Rejection, which occurs before a situation even happens. Mindfulness-based…
Anticipatory Rejection
Personal developmentAnticipatory rejection is a pattern of behavior where you reject yourself before others have the chance to accept or reject you. This self-defeating habit can prevent you from forming lasting connections with others. In contrast to extracting…
Basics of the Mind
Personal developmentThe mind is a complex process involving urges, thoughts, and drives that lead to behaviors that are either encouraged or discouraged though either pleasant experience or unpleasant experience. To understand how this vastly oversimplified explanation…
Brain Science
Personal developmentBrain science (neuroscience) involves the physical structure of the brain, its biochemistry, and experiences that help shape it. A brain repeatedly subjected to trauma (physical or emotional/chemical) is more likely to suffer some difficulty.…
Anticipatory Defensiveness
Personal developmentFirst, we should differentiate between plain old defensiveness and anticipatory defensiveness. They share a certain vibe of irritability and protectiveness, but they are certainly different, and seem to come from different places: One defending…
Grieving an unfair loss
Depression, Personal developmentBalancing the anger and sadness of an unfair loss can feel impossible, especially in the beginning. First, breathe and understand that this will pass even though it does not feel like it. Before going any further, if you are unsure, please get…
Emotional Confirmation Bias
Personal developmentWhen we think of "confirmation bias" we typically think of politics. As voters, confirmation bias is when we hold a particular belief, then selectively look for evidence to support it; this is typically an unconscious process (i.e. we are not…
Mindfulness and the Wise Mind
Mindfulness, Personal developmentIn dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), there is a wonderful explanation of how the best of our thinking and feeling minds can be accessed. This "Wise Mind" is based on the idea that the thinking brain and feeling brain both have validity and…
Procrastination
Personal developmentWhen it comes to not getting things done, we can be extremely creative about feeling good about it. Does this sound familiar, "To be at my most productive, I need some down time." Or, "Sleep is really important, so I'll just sleep in today .…