Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is the foundation of a positive and happy life. When we lack self-confidence, we can feel unworthy, anxious, or even depressed. But with practice, self-esteem can grow, leading to a healthier, more fulfilling life.

Self-Love is Not Selfish

• Are you struggling with feelings of worthlessness, as though you don’t matter to others or even to yourself?
• Do you find yourself feeling more negative about how others treat or perceive you?
• Does it feel like there’s not enough of ‘you’ to go around, leaving you feeling less empowered?
• Are you experiencing signs of depression or anxiety?

Self-esteem, like optimism, can be cultivated. Instead of focusing solely on what we want to avoid, we can direct our attention towards our goals and what we want to achieve. This forward-thinking approach not only aligns with the brain’s natural desire for progress but also boosts overall mental well-being.

What is Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem refers to how we perceive our own worth and value. People with healthy self-esteem tend to be more resilient and happier, capable of bouncing back from life’s challenges. On the flip side, low self-esteem can result in a negative outlook, increased stress, and even weakened immunity. It may also lead to conditions like depression and anxiety, creating a cycle that is hard to break. But it can be done! You are not alone.

Fortunately, self-esteem can be practiced and improved. It’s natural to feel overwhelmed at first, but by focusing on small, attainable goals, self-esteem can gradually grow, leading to a renewed sense of self-worth.

Steps to Build Self-Esteem

Building self-esteem starts with acknowledging your current feelings about your self-worth. It’s important to realize that these feelings, while valid, are not permanent and may not reflect the full picture of who you are. Simply reading this page is an act of self-empowerment and a step towards improving your situation.

• Be genuine: Recognize both your strengths and areas for growth. By balancing awareness of where you need improvement with the knowledge of your existing skills, you can begin working towards better self-esteem.
• Practice self-awareness: In any given situation, pause to assess how you are contributing to the moment. If what you are doing doesn’t feel helpful, gently notice this, and take small steps towards a more positive action.
• Celebrate progress: Whether the improvement is big or small, it’s crucial to acknowledge your successes. Building self-esteem is a process, and each positive action counts.

Self-Compassion: A Key to Growth

Compassion for yourself is crucial in the journey to building self-esteem. Many people with low self-esteem find it easier to offer kindness to others than to themselves. Yet self-compassion allows you to become more present, less distracted by internal negativity, and more capable of giving to others.

Remember, self-love is not selfish. By caring for yourself, you become more capable of helping others. Compassion for yourself allows you to be a role model for those around you, showing them how to nurture their own self-esteem through your actions.

How Counseling Can Help Build Self-Esteem

Counseling provides a supportive environment to explore and address low self-esteem. A counselor can guide you through identifying the root causes of your self-worth issues and help you develop strategies for improving it. Through techniques like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness exercises, and personalized goal-setting, counseling helps you rebuild confidence and maintain long-term mental wellness.

Working with a professional can give you tools to challenge negative beliefs about yourself, establish healthy thinking patterns, and gain a clearer understanding of your strengths. Regular counseling sessions create a safe space to practice and reinforce positive self-esteem habits over time.

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Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s has worked in the helping profession since he started college in 1990. After completing his Bachelor’s degree at the University of Texas, Austin in 1994, he attended the highly-regarded University of Minnesota to earn his Master’s degree in 1997. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is recognized as a Board Approved Supervisor by the State of Texas Board of Examiners of Professional Counselors. Jonathan has completed Level-2 of the Gottman Method of Couples Counseling, and in 1998 received training by the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation in Advanced Critical Incident Stress Management & Debriefing. To learn more about Jonathan’s practice, click here: Jonathan F. Anderson, LPC-s.