Calming the Anxiety Storm
Calming the Anxiety Storm11:33 am
Probably one of the most common questions that people have is how to effectively deal with anxiety. The nervous thoughts are bad enough, but the physical symptoms only make things worse as people start to worry that others can see them shaking or trembling, that their face is noticeably red, or that sweat is forming the dreaded armpit stain on clothing.
There are dozens of types of anxiety, but all of them are related to the sympathetic nervous system’s alert mechanism of Fight, Flight or Freeze. Fortunately, there are very specific skills that you can learn to calm the storm, or at least make it more manageable while you get those skills dialed in better.
How to calm anxiety
So let’s get to it and discuss the basics of anxiety management. Here are a few terms to become familiar with:
- Mindfulness – quite simply, noticing what is, but without judging it as
- Breathing – proper belly breathing turns down the fight-or-flight mechanism
- Meditation – a mindfulness practice involving noticing simply what is, while anchored in the breath
- Cognitive-Behavioral practices – the use of new thoughts (cognitions) to guide new behaviors that lead to new results that feedback into the conscious and unconscious minds to change our lives
Mindfulness: Notice what you are feeling
Please read this post on mindfulness for greater detail. To summarize though, mindfulness is about noticing what is going on inside of you, and around you, without judging it as good or bad. You may experience thoughts of ‘good’ or ‘bad’ but with mindfulness, you simply see those as thoughts and shift your focus to what the discomfort is trying to tell you (like to remove your hand from the hot stove to prevent further burning).
Mindfulness is also noticing the wonderful things without judgment. Of course, enjoying your experience is ok! And if you’re going to judge something as ‘good or bad,’ I suppose recognizing and celebrating goodness is a great way to do it!
Breathing: Initiate the ‘relaxation response’
Reading this post on meditation will help with this section and the next one.
When you breathe from your belly, where the belly expands on the inhale, you are breathing like you do in your most relaxed state of sleep. This kind of smooth, rhythmic breathing stimulates a neurological process called the relaxation response that slows brainwaves and triggers the release of endorphins that calm the body. It takes practice to become proficient with it and to notice the benefits; however, biofeedback can show that the body is responding even if you do not consciously notice it. Keep going.
To learn this technique, lay down, place a pillow under your knees and put your hands on your belly. Close your eyes if you like. Now breathe so that your belly inflates and lifts your hands up. When you exhale, allow your belly to sink back into your body (you don’t have to ‘suck it in’).
While there are specific breathing patterns, for now just go with slow-ish, smoothe and rhythmic.
- Elevating your feet helps calm anxiety as well, so feel free to do this as well while you breathe.
Meditation: Bringing together Mindfulness and Breathing
Again, please read the article on meditation for more detail.
In a nutshell, meditation is not about an empty mind; it is about being completely aware of the mind while in a flow state that is induced with smooth, gentle diaphragmatic (belly) breathing. You simply sit comfortably or lie down, breathe, and notice the antics of the mind. If you find yourself judging your thoughts or feelings, just notice the judging then return to your gentle breathing.
Meditation is also not about perfection. Rather, it is about noticing what the mind does as you simply practice allowing imperfection to happen. The distractions are your best teachers as they help you learn to shift your focus back to the gentle breath.
Cognitive-Behavioral practice: Changing your thoughts will change your life
The late Dr. Wayne Dyer said that if you change your thoughts you will change your life. This is essentially true, and mindfulness meditation creates a fertile ground for this practice to grow. As you become mindful of your thoughts and feelings, you are able to identify the ones that create problems and suffering. With this done, you can intervene by training your brain to use new thoughts (cognitions) to direct new behaviors. And there you have it. Changing thoughts changes behaviors, which changes results that shape your life.