Great relationships don’t overthink – They listen. I’ve been asked a thousand times: how do happy couples make it work? I’ve asked hundreds, and the Gottman Institute has asked thousands, and the answer is consistent: “When we disagree, even if we don’t resolve or fix it, we know we can talk about it.” An effective […]
Couples and Marriage
Relationships are supposed to be hard work, but that work should pay off in mutual love, respect, compassion, fun, joy, trust, adventure, etc. The hard work should feel worth it, and the benefits carry you through the more difficult times. When difficulties arise, the critical process for managing the conflict is communication, both sending and receiving messages. Read more about how to build a successful relationship in these articles.
Asking for communication help actually helps you What if you felt heard and understood at the beginning of conflict? When you feel heard and understood before tension builds to the “red-zone,” you get to the resolution much more efficiently. Imagine, for example, that you and your partner are arguing about money, and rather than feeling […]
First of all, it is important to understand that men are not “less emotional” than women; we are just inclined to keep those feelings to ourselves or express them differently. However, the feelings that we experience are influenced by our unique biochemistry and subtle brain structure differences. While men and women are far more alike […]
When you are in a relationship whether it is dating or marriage, you cannot simply plug in major corrections after the relationship has been established for some time . . . you must take the time to work through any hurt feelings, anger and resentment. Then as you move forward re-establishing trust, you are able […]
Have you ever felt like you’re in a relationship where you have to pay emotional rent? It’s a relationship where you may get some of your needs met, but it comes at a cost of putting up with a variety of difficulties like passive-aggressive guilt trips, controlling behaviors, entitlement, manipulation, etc. Can you really afford […]
Time time time, they say it’s everything. It can be the trap, and it can be the key to getting you out of the trap. You come home from a long day at work, and immediately you are showered with questions, “When’s dinner?” “When are we going to plan that holiday?” “Can you help me […]
Do you feel like people just cannot seem to get what you are saying? Do people often tell you that YOU don’t get what they are saying? 80% of our messages are non-verbal (eye contact, body language, facial expression). Of the 20% that is verbal, we can learn to be mindful of which words work […]
Ever see a divorced couple that seems to get along great and wonder how they do it? It’s effective Co-Parenting. There are skills that can be learned to cultivate a friendly co-parenting experience that benefits everybody, especially the kids! It can be tough in the beginning, but this is normal. Learn more about how to […]
Dread going home at the end of the day? Do you find reasons to stay away? Recognize that sinking feeling when you pull up and see that your spouse is home? Are you more irritable with your loved ones than usual? Feeling isolated in your family? Does your home feel like a prison? Do you […]
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