
Autism Spectrum and Dating
Couples and Marriage Counseling, Everyday Life
Going on a date can be an exciting yet nerve-wracking experience, especially for teens and young adults with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). The key to a successful date lies in being authentic, respectful, and considerate of your own needs…

How to Breakup Without Being Cruel
Couples and Marriage Counseling
Breaking up with someone is undoubtedly one of the most challenging and emotionally charged experiences we may encounter in our lives. Whether you're an adult or a teenager, ending a relationship can be overwhelming and filled with a…

Managing Defensiveness in Relationships
Couples and Marriage Counseling
How to Effectively Manage Defensiveness in Relationships
Defensiveness is a common issue that can arise in relationships, and it can have a significant impact on the quality of communication and connection between partners. In this article,…

Communication Killers: Criticism
Couples and Marriage CounselingIn the context of relationships, criticism is when you judge a person's character instead of just their behavior. It is akin to character assassination. [...]

Communication Killers: Defensiveness
Couples and Marriage CounselingWhen a person becomes defensive they typically appear to be at least mildly angry or frustrated as they deflect responsibility away from themselves.

Communication Killers: Contempt
Couples and Marriage CounselingAt its root, contempt is the communication of utter disrespect; a rejection of another person's worth. To fully understand how toxic contempt is, consider that it is actually worse than hatred. It is about that utter disrespect. […]

Communication Killers: Stonewalling
Couples and Marriage CounselingStonewalling looks like a refusal or inability to participate in a conflict discussion. When it is a refusal, then a person may have a look of contempt or annoyance while they look away with closed body language [...]

Communication Killers: Belligerence
Couples and Marriage CounselingDuring a conflict, the belligerent person will seem to be looking for a fight. They will appear provocative or combative because they are expressing anger in an aggressive manner. […]

Communication Killers: Blame
Couples and Marriage CounselingBlame often takes the form of score-keeping where one person says, "Well I wouldn't have yelled at you had you paid better attention and not dinged the car door!" It can also take the form of overt assigning of fault: "This is your fault because you are never careful enough." […]

Enhancing Relationships: The power of being listenable
Couples and Marriage CounselingBeing listenable helps you be heard
Effective communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship, and mastering the art of speaking in a way that is easy for others to hear is particularly crucial in potentially difficult conversations…

Relationship Decisions
Couples and Marriage CounselingRelationship Decisions: Making Sense of Thoughts & Feelings
Many people struggle with relationship decisions, and it’s not always easy to know what to do. Questions like whether to commit, have kids, propose, or deal with different needs…

How to Have a Healthy Relationship
Couples and Marriage CounselingHow Happy Couples Manage Conflict and Communicate Effectively
As a couples therapist, I’m often asked how happy couples make it work. The answer is consistent: when they disagree, they know they can talk about it. In this article, we’ll…

How Couples Counseling Helps
Couples and Marriage CounselingImproving Communication in Relationships
Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. However, what if you could avoid unnecessary tension and conflict by feeling heard and understood at the beginning of a disagreement? If you feel like your…

Why Men Don’t Want to go to Couples Counseling (and how to talk about it)
Couples and Marriage CounselingWhy Men Are Averse to Couples Counseling
It is a common misconception that men are "less emotional" than women. The truth is that men experience emotions just as much as women do, but they may express them differently or keep them to themselves.…

Relationships: You Cannot Bake the Cake then Add the Sugar
Couples and Marriage Counseling
Establishing a healthy and fulfilling relationship takes time, effort, and patience. When you're in a relationship, whether it's dating or marriage, it's important to understand that major corrections cannot be made overnight.…

The “Time Trap”
Couples and Marriage Counseling, Work-Life BalanceTime time time, they say it's everything. It can be the trap, and it can be the key to getting you out of the trap.
You come home from a long day at work, and immediately you are showered with questions, "When's dinner?" "When are we going…

Communication Skills
Couples and Marriage Counseling
Do you feel like people just cannot seem to get what you are saying?
Do people often tell you that YOU don't get what they are saying?
80% of our messages are non-verbal (eye contact, body language, facial expression).
Of the 20%…

Co-parenting
Couples and Marriage Counseling, Family and ParentingEver see a divorced couple that seems to get along great and wonder how they do it? It's effective Co-Parenting. There are skills that can be learned to cultivate a friendly co-parenting experience that benefits everybody, especially the kids!…